First of all, I must say I'm feeling much better about things. Well, back to normal anyway. But I logged onto Facebook for a few minutes and saw that one of my friends (more of an acquaintance from college) had shared a link to an article that I had to click on to see what it was all about. And then I rolled my eyes reading it. This friend is someone who accidentally got prego with twins while in college. She's a good mom and loves her kids so I'm not trying to say anything bad about her. But the article was about some mom of three young kids who was annoyed with people telling her to "enjoy every moment." Something you're used to hearing when you have a little one "because they grow up way too fast." (This is true, by the way. It is crazy how fast babies/kids grow.) I think she was basically saying that her days were so hectic and tiresome that she really didn't enjoy them as they were happening but she knew she would look back and enjoy that time. I tried to relate to it and see things through the author's eyes, I really did. But my eyes don't work that way. I appreciate almost every moment with my child, even if it is one of "those" moments. When I am up half the night with a fussy toddler it is difficult, but at least a part of me loves cuddling up with him in the rocking chair. I know that he won't want me to hold him that much longer so I take it all in as much as possible. Sure, I might complain about how little sleep we got or how fussy he is but at the same time I have a great appreciation for even being able to experience those things. Maybe I'm just lucky and got a well-behaved child that isn't terribly difficult to care for. Or maybe it's because I only have one kid so I'm not that worn out with him. Maybe I'm just crazy or delusional. But I think it's probably because of all the work it takes for me to have a child, and that's why I have an appreciation for every little moment whether good or bad. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you want to complain about your kids, try not to complain to an infertile because we don't have much sympathy. That and don't take your kids for granted.
Here is the article if you're interested in reading it:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glennon-melton/dont-carpe-diem_b_1206346.html
3 comments:
Oh my gosh, I've seen that same link floating around Facebook. I agree, Eye Roll! I closed out about halfway through because It didnt make any sense to me!
I also read that article. That happens to me a lot when I'm out and about, but I have to say, the "enjoy every moment" advice is probably the one piece of advice I think I'm actually good at following. But in the author's defense, it can be really difficult as a stay at home mom. In my personal situation, I am at home with him nearly all of the time, I have a husband that travels frequently and no family in the area. I really enjoy being able to stay at home and spend this time with Landon, but some days are pretty tough when you don't get much of a break, and I only have the one kid.
I guess the part that got me is how she was counting down until bedtime. I understand exhaustion but wishing your day away (and time with your kids while they're around) is just beyond my comprehension. I'm not trying to say I'm perfect and I never have those moments where I get frustrated or tired but that is the exception and not the norm. It all has to do with perspective, and mine is different than many people.
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